So after my climbing trip in March of 1999, Mr. T. and I went on our first date. We went to Vinos and drank beer and talked. I think we ended up talking most of the evening. I thought he was bi. He thought I was bi. I liked how open and honest he was. He was very polite and very nice.
I do like a nice guy. I always have.
As I stated earlier, he was bored and injured, so he had a lot of time for me. I think at any other time in our lives, we wouldn't have meshed as well. We both would have been too busy with our lives. I didn't have very many friends yet, and Mr. T. wasn't riding bikes all the time. Mr. T. isn't outgoing, so he was probably happy for the some company that wasn't his roommates.
I tried to break up with him once. He was over an hour late coming to get me one evening. (He doesn't have a very good sense of time.) He told me that he was never going to be perfect, and that I was never going to find someone perfect. He told me that I needed to figure out if the good outweighed the bad. He also told me that I wasn't perfect, but that he was pretty happy where he was.
That struck me because I guess in a way I was searching for perfection. Aren't we all when we are young. When he told me I wasn't perfect, it was a bit of an epiphany too. I had never assumed I was perfect, but I guess in a way, I wasn't concerned about it. Mr. T. is a man of few words, but the few serious ones he does have are very poignant and well thought out.
With Mr. T. it was always different. I never really had a doubt that we would get married. It was really weird because I wouldn't say that we instantly got serious but we did connect. It wasn't in a way that says "oh wow. this person really gets me kind of way", but rather it was in a way that you connect with a really good friend that you can't get enough of. We are very different people with very different life experiences, but we come to the same conclusions even if they are from different angles. I don't alway understand him, but I can pretty much guess how he is going to respond to most things. We like similar things and unlike most couples, we vote together right down the ballot. We generally agree, which nice.
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Oh, I remember when y'all got together, and how he bought you special gum for your cavities. And I could barely imagine being with a guy that nice! what a great couple!
oh, and I tried to break up with Dave really early on. It just didn't take! It lasted about five minutes. I'm not really sure he understood what I was trying to say, and then I forgot about it because we were having such a nice evening!
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